Hi Chia,
This talking thing... it bothers me, and I'll tell you why.
I see, hear and feel me in you. And you'll hear me saying this pretty much all the time!! I know it must be the most irritating thing for you, but it scares the hell out of me. I'll try and explain why. When I see you doing things that I do or did, I pretty much know the consequences and so its like... I can see you taking your first step towards falling in a ditch and trust me it makes me react violently, more violently than I probably should and I am working on it.
That's why the talking thing again. You see I've hurt the dearest people in my life by taking the way I do. Talking is so much more about people we want as listeners than just about the speaker. Because we want people to understand, respect, and react the way we expect when we talk to them, it is all the more important that we talk in a manner acceptable by these people. It means speaking in a tone, volume and with words which are more acceptable by the listener. This will help us. Being able to gauge how that person who you are going to talk to is feeling is very critical to your talking. What this means is that if you ask me for eating chocolate when I am already angry about something, you most likely will not get any chocolate. But if you hold on your request for a most peaceful time, your chances of getting that chocolate may just double.
Think about it...
Speak slowly, gently and respectfully my child :)
Love
Mummy
This talking thing... it bothers me, and I'll tell you why.
I see, hear and feel me in you. And you'll hear me saying this pretty much all the time!! I know it must be the most irritating thing for you, but it scares the hell out of me. I'll try and explain why. When I see you doing things that I do or did, I pretty much know the consequences and so its like... I can see you taking your first step towards falling in a ditch and trust me it makes me react violently, more violently than I probably should and I am working on it.
That's why the talking thing again. You see I've hurt the dearest people in my life by taking the way I do. Talking is so much more about people we want as listeners than just about the speaker. Because we want people to understand, respect, and react the way we expect when we talk to them, it is all the more important that we talk in a manner acceptable by these people. It means speaking in a tone, volume and with words which are more acceptable by the listener. This will help us. Being able to gauge how that person who you are going to talk to is feeling is very critical to your talking. What this means is that if you ask me for eating chocolate when I am already angry about something, you most likely will not get any chocolate. But if you hold on your request for a most peaceful time, your chances of getting that chocolate may just double.
Think about it...
Speak slowly, gently and respectfully my child :)
Love
Mummy
